Of course, there are a lot more, but this list is what is hitting me today.
1. Defensive driving saves lives. On my way to work, I avoided three accidents because I was paying attention and giving people space. Sometimes things people do on the freeway really scare me.
2. Having given up on my dreams, I still cannot accept my reality. It's time to reevaluate what is working, what isn't, and work to make some changes. And to rediscover the my dreams.
3. Not all pit bulls are bad. I have been bitten by one who was terribly neglected, and it was more a plea for attention than anything else. HOWEVER, I have been bitten by way more cocker spaniels, chihuahuas, dalmations, labs, and poodles than I ever was by a pit bull. I know what they are capable of, but this used to be America's favorite dog until people effed 'em up.
4. Someone, somewhere loves you. It may not be the way you need them to, but they do as much as they can.
5. Someone, somewhere, is tired of your crap. That has been happening to me a lot lately, again, making me reevaluate, not only myself, but my relationships.
6. Losing weight is making me feel better. I am now at a 20 pound loss. The physical changes, besides a smaller clothing size, have been a decrease in my arthritic symptoms and my increased ability to exercise. I hardly ever flare up anymore, and my skin has been looking really good. For once, I don't look at the mirror and cringe.
7. Flexibility is important if you want to survive. Things happen no matter how well and carefully you plan something. I am glad that, once the initial shock and dismay wear off, that I am pretty good at figuring out what to do next and can find compromise without freaking out too badly.
8. You can build your own family. This comes after acceptance that your biological family is not healthy and cannot give you what you need. My chosen family is small, but I know I can count on them and would do anything for them. Except share my cheesecake. Never get between an Asian girl and her food.
9. Life is too short to spend in the car. See #2.
10. Don't let your relationship with another person determine the value you hold for yourself. I have been with people who made me feel awful and people who made me feel great. The truth is, people should not make you feel anything about yourself, and I needed to decide that I was going to be worth something to myself. It was very empowering. I care about myself, body and spirit, and for the first time in my life am nurturing both.
What has life taught you?
1 comment:
If someone's not at my level (or above), I simply cannot bring myself to try too hard. I have always known that not everyone will like me; what I've learned is that I really don't care! Like you, I have my chosen family and caring about them and having their love is all that matters.
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